"What do you regard as most humane? To spare someone shame." - Friedrick Nietzsche
I think this weirdo had the right idea when it comes to being ashamed.
Ashamed means to be embarrassed or guilty about your actions, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.
Shamefulness is so tightly wound in the web of food, it is sort of insane.
How often do you feel ashamed when you eat that extra brownie? Or even, go overboard with the salad? All of a sudden you feel that searing twinge of betrayal towards yourself. Or you are embarrassed about what others would think if they only knew.
See, shame is one of the ultimate saboteurs out there. It has the ability to cut through your desires like a knife through butter (pun intended).
Being ashamed of oneself has it's place, as all things do. Maybe you cheated on your significant other. Shame would be a typical response. But that is actually more of question around morality and the difference between right and wrong.
But shame when it comes to food and our bodies serves little to NO purpose.
Releasing the shame you feel about how you eat, what you want to eat, and how you look at your body is not only freeing but it also allows you to move forward in your journey.
Shame is like having your hands tied behind your back and being given the task of opening a door. Doable, sure, but most certainly not done with ease.
And we really don't need this journey to be any longer and harder than it already can be.
So do yourself a favor. Let go of feeling ashamed about your desire to look a certain way. Let go of feeling ashamed for emotionally eating after you just found out someone close to you passed away. Let go of the shame you feel for wanting to lose weight. Let go of feeling ashamed for choosing the steak over the salad. Let go of feeling ashamed for not having this shit down already. (But be careful of not using this as an excuse to apeshit with food).
Let all the shame go. You do not have to be ashamed of how you feel. You do not have to be ashamed for hating your job because every one else says you should be grateful that you have them.
Shamefulness and being ashamed gives power to other people. Because usually, those feelings come from others views or ideas about how things should be. There is a huge difference between the morals of right and wrong and Shame.
But you are not them. The external world doesn't have to dictate how you feel about yourself. So to them as I often say "Fuck that!"
You decide and you know what feels good to you. You know the difference between right and wrong. You decide when you get to release the shame.
It serves no purpose other than to keep you small in the world. And I know and you know in your fierce little heart that you do not want to play small.
And most importantly, stop apologizing for being who you are. Stop feeling shame about who you are. Let your freak flag fly. The world needs more people like that.
So tell me, what will you be releasing shame around today?